03 June 2008

grape juice, not grapefruit

lately my grandad hasn't been doing very well. he's in a lot of pain and doesn't have very much strength. most of the family will be surprised if he lives through the week.

he's had prostate cancer for the past twenty-some odd years and it hasn't really been a big issue. but in the past few months it has gotten much, much worse. it makes me sad to see him suffering so much. i know he's ready to go home, ready to see grandma again, but something is keeping him here. and i hope it lets him go soon.

with all the medication he's been given lately, he's had quite a few episodes of hallucinations. he sees objects that aren't there. but through it all, he has kept his sense of humor.

saturday and sunday afternoon, we went over to his house. a few of his brothers and sisters had flown in from out of state to see him. it was fun to visit with them and hear stories from their childhood - stories that often included grandad. at one point, i was inside sitting with grandad while the aunts and uncles were in the other room talking. he asked for alona, my aunt, so i sent bryson to get her. when alona came into the room, she started talking to grandad asking him if he wanted something to drink. he asked what she had, to which she replied, "i have some grape juice." but i guess he thought she said "grapefruit" and grandad hates grapefruit. so he declined and said, "i don't like grapefruit."
"no, grape juice."
"no grapefruit."

it went back and forth for a minute or two, and then he finally understood, "grape juice" and said, "yeah, i'll have a sip of that."

the exchange made me smile.

i just hope his suffering isn't prolonged.

2 comments:

Erica said...

Hey Shan...I just heard from Grandma about the passing of your grandad. I'm so sorry for your loss. We love you guys so much. *hugs*

Kiley said...

Shanna, Mom told me about your grandpa this morning as well. I'm sorry - but I'm sure he's so happy to be with your grandma again (can't you just imagine them just jumping for joy?). We love you a whole lot!

P.S. I still am so happy to think of when you and Austin went thru the temple - and he was so happy to be there with both of his grandkids! You weren't there to hear, but in the waiting room he was telling everyone how proud he was of you two, and how neat it was to be with the both of you!

We love you a lot! We send hugs as well.